Motherhood. Mother’s Day.
For me, today an explosion of joy, a remembrance of the sacred, acknowledgment of the hurt and a day of hope.
I asked a handful of mothers that I admire what motherhood and Mother’s Day weekend means to them.
It is the ultimate act of unconditional love. I am challenged and pushed to my limit every single day…I am the woman that I am and the woman that I want to become because I am a mother.
Ashley – mother, birth mother, founder of Blessings in a Basket
Being a mother is a blessing I thought I may never have. When it finally happened, I was able to see all the little miracles that perfectly aligned in order for our son to come to our home. I am in awe of the love the Lord has for my son, his birth family and for our family. And I will be forever grateful for the chance to be called “Mommy.”
Brittany – adoptive mother, infertility survivor
Mother’s Day weekend is for celebration, joy, remembrance & love. I celebrate the mothers in my life, and for the last 4 years I have been privileged to include myself in this celebration. I LUV that I get 2 days. I get to be the best kind of mother – limited responsibility with maximum joy! Who wouldn’t want to celebrate that?!
birthMOM – co-founder of Birthmothers 4 Adoption
Being a mom is a constant reminder that miracles happen. It means there are 3 amazing women who made it possible for me to be a mom & feasible for me to embrace celebrating Mother’s Day. It means having more love for my children & their birth families than I ever knew existed. It means having the family that I dreamed of and embracing all of the fun, hard, hectic, yet joyful moments of it all.
Leisha – adoptive mother, infertility survivor
Being a mom is the most honorable blessing I’ve ever received. After placing Avery, the blessing of being a mom became a very apparent & extreme desire of mine. When we discovered we were pregnant with Kali, it took awhile for reality to actually set in. I’ve never felt so blessed in my entire life. Who knew you could feel so much love for someone? The only word I can think of to describe it is “Bliss”.
Andee – mother, birth mother
The moment I met my first newborn child, I felt long-sought for peace. Now that I have 3 children through adoption miracles, Mother’s Day means even more. We celebrate Birth Mother’s Day the Saturday before Mother’s Day & my thoughts turn to the selfless women who sacrificed everything to do what they thought was best for their children, blessing my life in the process.
Megan– adoptive mother, infertility survivor
Birth Mother’s Day reminds me of my precious Josie who I placed in 2008. I am & forever will be her birthmother. I am proud to be that. On Mother’s day I think of my precious Mina who I get the honor of mothering; I also think of Josie’s mom. Without her I wouldn’t be the mom I am today.
Jessa – mother, birth mother, founder of Birthmothers 4 Adoption, Scholarships 4 Birthmothers
When my daughter came home, everyone told me I was her mom because I was raising her. When my son was born, everyone told me I was his mom, I had given birth to him. After years of thought, I’ve come to the conclusion that biology, possession & rearing is not what makes a mom because one cannot always apply to all three or even one. What makes a mom is love.
Ashley – mom, infertility survivor
Being a mom means having only 5″ on the bed since children are now in it, having smudge marks on my windows I never want to clean, making funny faces, sharing story time, and treasuring every moment. I’m not sure how I feel about Mother’s Day since I loathed it for a good decade. It just feels weird to me but I try to focus on other women who have been wonderful examples to me.
Christine – adoptive mother, infertility survivor
Mothers Day, for me, is a time of healing and celebration. It’s a day (more like the build-up of a few weeks) where I can reflect on what a MIRACLE it is for me to be a mother. Its a time where I can acknowledge my infertility and be ridiculously THANKFUL that my children found a way to my arms when my womb was inaccessible.
Jenn – adoptive mother, foster mother, infertility survivor
Motherhood, to me, is the realization of a dream that is better than I ever imagined. It’s crying on the stairs in the middle of the night because your side of the bed is now drenched in a mixture of pee and spit up and your brain can’t figure out how to fix that problem. And then laughing because you realize you wanted every last messy bit with all your heart. And now you have it. And it’s perfect.
Kristin – mother of twins, infertility survivor
I would catch a grenade, take a bullet, stand in front of train for any of my kids. I Love them to the moon and back! And one of the best things…they gave me grandkids!!!!
Toni – mother, adoptive grandma
I tell my son that I am forever grateful that he calls me mother because hearing it reminds me everyday that I have been endowed with a sacred power that can be useful in this realm of motherhood…I have the power to nurture and love in ways that can eternally alter lives and change the world. That is motherhood to me.
Kerstin – mother, infertility survivor, creator of LDSinfertility.org
Ownership is not a prerequisite for motherly love. I had the heart of a mother long before I was blessed with my son. Now, I have a birth mother to thank for the miracle of my little guy. There is so much more to the term, ‘mother’ than I could have ever known.
Kenna – adoptive mother, infertility survivor, cancer survivor
Motherhood kicks my butt, keeps me humble and gives me the greatest sense of accomplishment and peace compared to anything else out there. It’s bubbled up from my toes from the moment I found out it (motherhood) was going to happen to me until it overtook my entire existence, I don’t remember what life was like before these little people.
Casey – mother, secondary infertility survivor
While my friends may know about my son, they never seem to grasp just how hard Mother’s Day is for me. Mother’s Day means lots of tears shed in private, glancing at pictures of my son, and the traditional “bah humbug” tweet. It also means appreciating every sacrifice my mother and grandmother made for me to get me to this stage in my life.
Marilee – birth mother
Happy Mother’s Day to ALL kinds of mothers.
“Eve was given the identity of “the mother of all living”—years, decades, perhaps centuries before she ever bore a child. It would appear that her motherhood preceded her maternity, just as surely as the perfection of the Garden preceded the struggles of mortality. I believe mother is one of those very carefully chosen words, one of those rich words—with meaning after meaning after meaning. We must not, at all costs, let that word divide us. I believe with all my heart that it is first and foremost a statement about our nature, not a head count of our children.”
-Patricia Holland, One Thing Needful: Becoming Women of Greater Faith in Christ