The Open Adoption Project | What was going through your mind on placement day?

The Open Adoption Project is a project my youngest son’s birth mother and I put together while she was visiting a couple months ago.

We asked The R House Facebook Community if they had any questions for a birth mother and the adoptive mother she placed with in an open adoption …and then we sat down in front of the camera and answered them candidly.


What was going through your mind on placement day?

In this video, Joniece makes reference to her blog and sites a specific post about Placement Day. (I love that picture of her kissing Gavin on placement day.)

After placement happened in court, we came home and this happened…

You can view all the posts in this project by following the Open Adoption Project tag or by checking out The R House’s YouTube Channel–just look for the yellow and white background.


Other questions we have answered:

Do you ever feel that you “owe” her?

How do you make your open adoption work?

What is your biggest compromise in your open adoption?

Do you get jealous of one another in your open adoption?

Are you completely satisfied with your open adoption?

Did anyone try to talk you out of placing your child for adoption?

Why did you place your baby for adoption?

Open Adoption Giggles–Out takes!


We also hope that you will share your experiences in the comments. What emotions did you experience on placement day?



  1. says

    Wow this is great. Thanks for sharing your story in such an open and honest way. Mind if I share these?

  2. J-love.. says

    The pictures are awesome! The ones of you and Josh made me cry…such tender moments

  3. Aimee says

    This is amazing! We’re just starting the home study process and this is so helpful in getting us to think ahead to what our birthmother and father may be experiencing before and during placement…thank you for sharing so honestly!

    Also, I happened to watch your clip on pregnancy loss…how true! We have been TTC for 7 years and we lost identical twin daughters at 18 weeks and the comments I hated most were about how “good” or “thin” I looked! It felt like someone was literally stabbing me in the heart, I couldn’t believe how insensitive they were being, and that was from family members! I was able to write off most everything else but that “compliment” broke my heart a little more. Thank you trying to educate people!