The Open Adoption Project | Do you ever feel that you “owe” her?

The Open Adoption Project is a project my youngest son’s birth mother and I put together while she was visiting a couple weeks ago.

We asked The R House Facebook Community if they had any questions for a birth mother and the adoptive mother she placed with in an open adoption …and then we sat down in front of the camera and answered them candidly.


Do you ever feel obligated to each other or that you “owe” her?

You can view all the posts in this project by following the Open Adoption Project tag or by checking out The R House’s YouTube Channel–just look for the yellow and white background.


Other questions we have answered:

How do you make your open adoption work?

What is your biggest compromise in your open adoption?

Do you get jealous of one another in your open adoption?

Are you completely satisfied with your open adoption?

Did anyone try to talk you out of placing your child for adoption?

Why did you place your baby for adoption?

Open Adoption Giggles–Out takes!


We also hope that you will share your experiences in the comments. What kinds of “obligations”, if any, do you feel in your adoption whether it is open or closed?



  1. says

    Great post and awesome video series idea. It’s so interesting that you’re tackling this subject because I just wrote a post that dealt with the tremendous sacrifice that our birth mom made so that we can have a child. How cool that you stay so closely in touch.