The Open Adoption Project is a project my youngest son’s birth mother and I put together while she was visiting a couple weeks ago.
We asked The R House Facebook Community if they had any questions for a birth mother and the adoptive mother she placed with in an open adoption …and then we sat down in front of the camera and answered them candidly.
Did anyone online or ‘in real life’ try to talk you out of placing your baby boy for adoption?
I have to say that this is my favorite of the questions we talked about. I fell in love with Joniece all over again with her response. I love her passion. I love her strong mind. I love her conviction! Man, I just want to be more like her.
“If they [an expectant mother] let anyone make the decision for them, they are only doing themselves harm because they are not going to be happy with their decision. If it didn’t come from you there’s no way, a decision that hard, you can ever feel peaceful about.”
“If you didn’t whole heartedly make that decision, as much as possible, then you’re never going to be happy with it.”
BEAUTIFUL. Agree x3!
We also hope that you will share your experiences in the comments. Did anyone try to talk you out of your decision to parent or place? Did you give someone else your deciding power? Did you let someone else make this difficult decision for you?