I’ve grown closer to one of my sisters-in-law over the last year.
She and her husband have not been able to start a family when they wanted to. We’ve laughed and cried and been angry about it together. Common heartache has a way of bonding people together like that.
This Mother’s Day season, she wrote a poem to the baby she is dreaming of. I thought it was beautiful and hopeful and haunting. She gave me permission to share it with all of you.
If you’re an infertility survivor, you’ll recognize yourself in her words. My hope is that this post will bring hope to those in similar shoes who are hurting today. And that those of us who have realized our dream of motherhood will remember to lift up our sisters around us with empathy and compassion. Let’s bear one another’s burdens today.
Today is a day to celebrate ALL kind of mothers. Even mothers who are not ‘mothers’ yet. Even the childless mother.
Dear sweet unborn baby of mine,
Your daddy and I feel like we have been waiting for years, although it’s only been “some time.”
Patience isn’t a word I would use to describe me (your future mother). Sometimes I just need a good long cry under the covers.
I think about you more and more as the days go on. I could stay up talking about you all the way ’til dawn.
This may sound crazy but I just feel like a part of me is missing. But don’t worry about us, your dad and I do a lot of kissing.
I truly feel just a little bit empty. You can call me all sorts of names– I probably am a little bit wimpy.
“Some time,” that’s it? You can add to this started fire.. But that doesn’t shake the fact that wanting to be a mother is such a righteous desire.
I can’t wait to hold you, kiss you, love you like my own. And when I see you for the first time I know I’ll be blown.
Sometimes I get scared that I’m not fully prepared. And then I remember what our sweet Father in Heaven has declared:
“I will never leave thee nor forsake thee,” He said with such purity. He is always with us. And one day you will know this with surety.
No matter how long it takes Him to bless me with you. I will stand firm & steadfast in my faith and always be true.
I know this poem is short, it’s made for some good support, you see it’s Mother’s Day and unfortunately I’m still not expecting. On this day it’s really been quite affecting. Your dad and I just wanted you to know, although you’re not physically with us, we still love you so!