Davion’s Story | We Can Do Better, America

Have you heard of Davion Navar Henry?

He is a young man who was so moved by his desire to have a family and his faith that he arranged to speak to a Florida congregation and ask to be adopted.

 

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In foster care since he was a baby, he recently found out his mother, who had given birth to him in jail, had passed away. He found out while searching online.

“I know God hasn’t given up on me. So I’m not giving up either,” Davion told the congregation of 300, dressed in a donated suit and tie. “I’ll take anyone. Old or young, dad or mom, black, white, purple. I don’t care. And I would be really appreciative. The best I could be.”

 

I wept when I watched it–especially the part where he explains that he just wants to be loved. While his faith inspires me, this is one of the saddest things I have ever seen. It just doesn’t make sense that we have children begging for families. It hurts my soul and I know it tugs on your heart as well.

We can do better, America. We really can. As National Adoption Month is coming up (November!), let’s make the commitment to bring more attention to those who are in the foster care system and want to be adopted into a family. Let’s brainstorm together some ways to make this happen! (Leave a comment if you have an idea.) I will compile the ideas into a post at the beginning of November and we can use it to make a difference.

Yes, we CAN make a difference in the lives of the 400,000 children currently in the foster care program–kids like Davion–who want to be loved “no matter what.”

Thank you for your inspiration and example, Davion.

 

 

Comments

  1. Julie says

    This is really sad. I’m glad that you are speaking up about it and posted this but I also wonder then why there isn’t a bigger push to adopt from foster care only, where children without any parents wait and are neglected. This is tragic.

  2. Keltie says

    I think you have to ask yourself three questions: Have I? Could I? Would I? Have I done anything to help solve the problem, if I haven’t. Could I do anything to help the problem, if I can’t. Would I if I could? I wish so often parents who are waiting to adopt through private or international adoption because they want a baby would open their eyes to all the wonderful kids out there waiting for homes, and just because they are older aren’t wanted. We have adopted two older children through foster care and they are older then we “should” have, as in they were born when we were in high school”, but despite the many issues are son has given us we know he is a very special spirit given these challenges that not many people could live with, and our daughter is our angel, literally sent to our family to help us a parents deal with all the issues her brothers causes, they were 6 and 8 when we adopted them, both past the age most children are adopted. Has it been easy, no, but it has been more then worth it.

    • Lindsey says

      These are all great points, but I think we have got to enlist a larger group than those that can adopt. There has got to be more we can do in social media, in our communities, etc. to help give more attention to these kids and help them find their forever homes …don’t you think?

      • Keltie says

        I agree, we need to get the word out there and have more people adopting, then just the people who are because they have fertility issues. I honestly believe every couple that grows their family through adoption should adopt a baby at some point and have that newborn experience, as there is nothing like it, but if they also took an older child it would solve two sad situations, kids who just want to be loved and be in a family, and the heartache of a women who just wants to be a mother. Like I said we adopted two older children first, and by doing that it went a long way to healing my broken heart because I wasn’t a mother. We have then gone on to adopt a six month old and her 5 year old brother, they are 9 and 13 now, and then we fostered babies, just babies for the last 5 years and after 13 different newborns going through our home we are now adopting two babies, a brother and sister that are a year apart 1 and 2, but we have had both since birth. If we can encourage people who are already ready to adopt to look at adopting an older child as an option more homes would be found faster, as those people are already approved and ready to go. I truly believe if older children begin to be adopted that way, then those people can start to show the general population that older child adoption is an amazing thing. There are so many hurdles to over come because of bad stereotypes, we have to show that those stereotypes are wrong. I am obviously very passionate about older child adoption since I have done it and seen the difference it has made not only my children’s lives, but in mine. I am so grateful that the Lord inspired me and my husband to become foster parents and take our son as a placement, and later his sister. I know not everyone can do this, I just wish more adoptive parents would consider it and not always just want the baby, do both, don’t think it’s an either or situation, nobody has ever said it was. I have a cousin who has adopted two older children after having two biological children because she saw the blessings it brought to my life and how amazing my kids are, that’s what I am talking about. Lead by example. Ok I am done ranting. On another note I finally mailed you some of the brown band aids I found, you should have them in the next week or so.

  3. ssj says

    As a school counselor, I can eestablish relationships with foster care students and set up support through community agencies to provide mentorships and counseling. Sad thing is Iddon’t even know who is in the foster care system in my school. I need to do better!

  4. Alicia says

    When we were foster parents the most common thing people said to us was “I couldn’t do it.” Meaning they can’t love a child, at the risk of having to let the child go; or at the risk of what might happen to their ‘already established’ kids if they also foster other kids. I think people have a lot of misjudgements about these kids. Maybe it needs to start with showing that these kids are not ‘bad’ they have just been hurt. They’ve experienced some sort of trauma, that’s why they are where they are. Our job is to love them (even when it is hard) and help them deal with that trauma. Sometimes they just need to know that someone really will love them even when they make bad choices. Perhaps if more people knew this, and knew that ALL of the children waiting to be adopted just want to be loved, maybe they would be touched to reach out and consider adopting. Maybe.

    • Lindsey says

      This is such a powerful comment. I especially love the perspective about all children just wanting to be loved.

      I am going to find more foster parents to interview and educate us about this. What an amazing idea. Thank you for commenting!

  5. Kirsten says

    We are just finishing up our third foster care adoption. When we first started our adoption process, I too said, I could never do that. I ruled it out. Going through our first private adoption, we were forced into becoming foster parents (long story), that ended up being a failed placement, but because of that, we were then foster parents. Looking back now, I can see how Heavenly Father guided our family to foster care adoption. I am so glad you are taking this on. There are so many wonderful children waiting for a forever family!

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  7. Andrea says

    I always have mixed feelings on posts like this. I am going to try and word this right because I know it is a delicate subject, and I in no way want this to come across as an attack. When I read things like this they break my heart into a thousand pieces. I really loved the piece recently about the foster mom of the year. It moved me in a way that rarely happens. All the while in the back of my mind I can’t help but think of all those waiting to be matched to adopt a baby.

    While I get that there is a lot of difference in adopting an older child and adopting a baby I just don’t understand why it has to be one or the other. I often read about failed adoptions and birthmothers backing out. I imagine the pain is horrible. It’s not something I have ever experienced so I would be remiss to comment on that, but I always think of all the children waiting, longing and hoping for a home and a place to love them.

    I think of the cost of domestic infant adoption and the complaints I have read about how it makes the average person unable to adopt, that the costs are exorbitant. While I agree that the costs are a bit out of control when it comes to infant adoption, the costs to adopt an older child are practically nonexistent. I have read that the wait is unbearable for infant adoption, and there is almost no wait at all for older children. Especially when you factor in all those that already have home studies.

    I am not trying to judge another for wanting a baby. I too long for a little soul to look up at me and call me mom. To have that love. To have the honor of raising a child that is mine from a time before they can remember. Then I think of the joy I also get from raising my step son. The love that is there. He cam into my life at 12 and I wouldn’t trade it for the world. Then to even think that I could have passed on the wonderful child that he is just because I wan’t a baby. Do I still want a baby… Sure, but that doesn’t mean that there isn’t love in my heart for him as well.

    I guess to me the problem is that I don’t see why it has to be an either or situation when it comes to adopting children. Why can we only have love for infants? Why do we decide to wait for a child when there is a child that is already waiting for us? Why can’t I wait for that child while I raise an older child too? Can’t I love them both the same?

  8. Maren says

    Lindsey this post has me in tears, breaks my heart that a child would be begging for love and for a family. I am one who is interested in how someone like me who wants to help but is unable to take in foster children because of restricting circumstances (home size, other childrens ages among a few) I so badly want to help children like David but how can I? I eventually would love to be a foster parent as our family grows older and circumstances change. What are your suggestions on how I can get involved now? Thank you for sharing this!!!