Bring Closure to your community, watch on Hulu.

This summer my husband and I hosted a screening of Closure for our local adoption community.

(Don’t know what I’m talk ing about? Learn about Closure.)

SLC Tugg Flier Presented by The R House

I did not pre-screen it, but I knew when I saw the preview that it was something that I wanted to bring to my beloved city. As a movie theater (and movie theater popcorn) enthusiast, it was important to me to see it on the big screen surrounded by folks that were going to be touched by Angela’s story as told by her filmmaker husband, Bryan Tucker. I wanted to experience it together. I wanted us to feed off each other’s energy.

The whole experience did not disappoint. It was a huge success!

After welcoming everyone to the event, I settled in between my parents-in-law and my husband in the front of the theater where I could listen to erupting laughter (there are some really funny parts!) and sniffles.

The film is raw and fair to all members of the adoption constellation. No one looks like “the bad guy” and your heart is just filled with love for this growing family as they keep making connections with one another.

Closure Documentary Screening SLC

I was especially touched by the relationship Angela has with her adoptive mom and how her mom supported her and cheered for her along the journey. I didn’t see jealousy and I didn’t see a mom who felt threatened by Angela finding her roots and embracing them. During a scene where Angela is talking to her mom before calling her birth family for the first time, I snuck to the back of the theater to take a picture (above). I shot it out on Instagram with the following caption,

My dream came true! Watching @ClosureFilm with my local adoption community. My heart is SO full. Tears are flowing! @angelatucker‘s mom is inspiring. I hope every adoptive mom in this theater is learning from her example. Love learning from her. Totally falling in love with this whole family! Thank you for sharing your story, @angieadoptee! So powerful. This is a MUST-SEE. BRING IT TO YOUR CITY. @beetucks #adoption

It really is a must see for everyone involved in adoption. My favorite part? There’s a scene in the film that I wasn’t expecting. It rang so true to me and touched on some pretty sensitive emotions after our failed adoptions and reversed adoption. It’s the scene where Angela finds her “foster family” and the foster mama talks about what it was like to let her go. Such a powerful scene! Thank you for including that, Bryan.

Panel after Closure Screening

After the film, we had a brief panel led by my husband who is a social worker. The panel included a birth mother and adoptive mother who had been reunited but the son (a teenager) wasn’t quite ready to move to face-to-face yet. Then there was a woman who was adopted (several times actually due to disrupted adoptions) through foster care and her story of reunion. And lastly, we had an adoptive couple that I look up to as wonderful examples of doing openness right. They have 7 children, 6 of which were adopted through foster care. Each child enjoys a level of openness with their biological families. Each panelist shared their story and their reaction to the film. (Spoiler alert: They all thought it was fantastic.)

I was especially touched by the woman who was adopted. She said that she turned to her friend in the theater so many times during the film and said, “This is so right on. This is exactly how I felt too.” There couldn’t be a better testimonial to the night!

I also have to tell you about the tears that my husband shed as he spoke of Angela’s birth mother. He was deeply moved by her pain which appeared to be caused, in part, by the closed adoption. He asked the theater to really think about who closed adoption truly benefits. Great food for thought. If you’re not sure about open adoption vs closed adoption, I invite you to watch this film with that question in mind.

Debriefing after Closure

After the panel we migrated to the foyer where we must have stayed for a good hour–making connections, talking about the film, sharing about our families, building a stronger community. It made my heart happy. This is why we need YOU to be involved in the adoption community. This is why, friends. 

Now I am sure you are dying to see the film. There are many ways to make that happen.

Bring it to your community. <<< This is my recommendation. I could have purchased the documentary and watched it in my jammies at home. But I knew I wanted to see it with my local adoption community! There is power when all sides of adoption are gathered together to learn and be fed. As I emailed with Bryan and Angela about this post, I love what Bryan said about bringing this film to your city.

One thing we hear over and over is that this film is meant to be watched in community, and I truly believe that as well.  As you already know, doing a Tugg screening is not easy, as it does require some commitment to promotion, etc., but I do want people to know it’s possible to succeed!

Closure Documentary on Hulu

Watch on Hulu. YES! Hulu! Stream it for free. (Image from Closure’s Facebook page.)

Closure on Aspire

Look for it on Aspire. The first airing will be 11/5 at 8pm ET. (Image from Closure’s Facebook page.)

Connect with Bryan and Angela and their journey on Facebook and Twitter.

 

One last thing… after you watch this film you will wonder, “How can I get my hands on that soundtrack?” Question answered HERE.

Closure is Coming to SLC 07.10.14

As soon as I watched the preview, I knew I needed to bring this film to SLC. 

I longed to sit in a theater filled with my adoption community and watch a beautiful and moving film about family, identity, and adoption.

Ladies and gentlemen …CLOSURE.

I reached out about bringing the film here and wouldn’t you know it, the SLC screening takes place Thursday, July 10th at 7:30 pm at Broadway Centre Cinemas. Hosted by my husband and me.

SLC Tugg Flier Presented by The R House

After the film, we have arranged for a brief Q&A discussion featuring The Utah Foster Care Foundation, a husband and wife who have open adoptions with the birth families of their 7 children (6 of them came to their family through foster care), and an adult adoptee. My hope is that we can have an honest conversation about bettering adoption in our community, helping our children understand and love their identity, and the power behind knowing your roots. I hope you’ll join us.

 

TICKETS ARE ON SALE NOW! CLICK HERE.

 

Although this film is in a theater, you cannot purchase tickets at the door. You have to purchase them through the website (also linked above). Ticket sales close 4 hours before the film. Josh and I make zero dollars off of this film. In fact, any proceeds will go to the Tied at the Heart retreat for birth mothers.

Josh and I will be at the theater at 6:30 to chat adoption, answer any questions you may have, and prep for an awesome tight.

I can’t wait to share this film with you!

 

P.S. You can learn more about Angela on her blog, The Adopted Life, Closure on Facebook, and Twitter.

 

A story about Nelson Mandela on Martin Luther King Jr Day

I’m a white woman raising a multiracial family.

Talking about race, the history of race and racism is something that is hard. I want my children to be proud of their roots and their skin color. I want them to identify with their race …but I don’t ever want them to be identified only by it. I want them to know the racial history of this country (and other countries) but at the same time, I don’t want those conversations to be too harsh or too sugar coated. What’s the right balance? Am I doing enough? Am I being too sensitive?

I read and read and read about this topic and I still don’t have all the answers. (Isn’t this the definition of parenthood?)

I can tell you what I do know:

For right now, I choose to teach my kids about race and racism by teaching them what great men like Nelson Mandela and Martin Luther King Jr did about it. I choose to use their life and mission to guide the conversation on this hard topic.

When Nelson Mandela passed away, I took the time to talk to the boys about him. We watched a couple YouTube videos about his life. We listened to South African music. We looked at pictures of Mandela.

Fast forward a month later. Tyson and I went on a little mommy/son date which ended at the grocery store. While in the checkout line, Tyson sees LIFE magazine’s commemorative issue featuring Nelson Mandela.

From his perch in the cart he says, “Look Mom, there’s the guy you like.”

I look over and see the magazine with Mandela’s smiling face beaming back. I pick up the issue and bring it to Tyson.

“Do you want to look at this, Buddy?”

“Yes.”

I hand it to him and start unloading the cart onto the conveyor belt. I look up to see this:

Parenting Win  Nelson Mandela Inspiration

 

His intensity takes my breath away. Sniff. Sniff.

 

“Mom, why is he in jail?” I tell him.

“Mom, what are all those people in life for?” We talk about the right to vote.

We have a little moment there in grocery check-out line, of all places.

And even though talking to my kids about race is not something I am totally confident in, in this little moment my mommy-heart skipped a beat. Despite my self-doubt and inadequacies, I must be doing something right. I’m calling this a parenting win.

(And obviously this issue of LIFE came home with us.)

 

MLK Quote on Education