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A story about Nelson Mandela on Martin Luther King Jr Day

Jan 20, 2014

I’m a white woman raising a multiracial family.

Talking about race, the history of race and racism is something that is hard. I want my children to be proud of their roots and their skin color. I want them to identify with their race …but I don’t ever want them to be identified only by it. I want them to know the racial history of this country (and other countries) but at the same time, I don’t want those conversations to be too harsh or too sugar coated. What’s the right balance? Am I doing enough? Am I being too sensitive?

I read and read and read about this topic and I still don’t have all the answers. (Isn’t this the definition of parenthood?)

I can tell you what I do know:

For right now, I choose to teach my kids about race and racism by teaching them what great men like Nelson Mandela and Martin Luther King Jr did about it. I choose to use their life and mission to guide the conversation on this hard topic.

When Nelson Mandela passed away, I took the time to talk to the boys about him. We watched a couple YouTube videos about his life. We listened to South African music. We looked at pictures of Mandela.

Fast forward a month later. Tyson and I went on a little mommy/son date which ended at the grocery store. While in the checkout line, Tyson sees LIFE magazine’s commemorative issue featuring Nelson Mandela.

From his perch in the cart he says, “Look Mom, there’s the guy you like.”

I look over and see the magazine with Mandela’s smiling face beaming back. I pick up the issue and bring it to Tyson.

“Do you want to look at this, Buddy?”


I hand it to him and start unloading the cart onto the conveyor belt. I look up to see this:

Parenting Win  Nelson Mandela Inspiration


His intensity takes my breath away. Sniff. Sniff.


“Mom, why is he in jail?” I tell him.

“Mom, what are all those people in life for?” We talk about the right to vote.

We have a little moment there in grocery check-out line, of all places.

And even though talking to my kids about race is not something I am totally confident in, in this little moment my mommy-heart skipped a beat. Despite my self-doubt and inadequacies, I must be doing something right. I’m calling this a parenting win.

(And obviously this issue of LIFE came home with us.)


MLK Quote on Education


Adoption Good News | When adoption’s done right

Nov 10, 2013


My How Adoption has Blessed Your Life series shares good news happening in the adoption world from all sides of the adoption triad …or just offers a paragraph or two on how the love of adoption is blessing lives. If you’d like to participate, just send me an email. Submission guidelines here. Enjoy!


Today’s Adoption Good News comes from Alice, an adoptive mother. This is her cute family…

Adoption Good News  The R House


My name is Alice Anne. My husband Xavier and I adopted our son Kal-El in 2011 and we’re on the path to adopting again! I can’t even begin to describe how EXCITED I get about adoption and how often I talk about it. When adoption is done right (ethically, for the right reasons, and with the child in mind), it can be so beautiful – an answer to prayers on the side of the birth family AND on the side of the adoptive family. Open adoption can make the experience even more beautiful – the coming together of two families over the love of a child.


Adoption is beautiful and terrifying and emotional and bitter and sweet all at once. I’m nervous – but oh so excited – to be a part of another adoption someday soon. I am so grateful that my family is being built this way.


I am forever grateful for Kal’s birth mother, who was courageous enough to make the decision that was right for her and right for her son. She was determined to do the right thing. We stood in awe as she signed those papers in the hospital, amazed at her strength while she was still recovering from an emergency c-section and grieving the child she was losing. My husband is not one to cry, but he came *this close.* The love he has for her is something he cannot even express in words to this day.


She made him a father. She made me a mother, and for that reason I will always cherish her like a sister. I’m glad she’s a part of our lives and that we can visit her and talk to her like family (because she is). I’m having a hard time imagining that we could be blessed the same way twice – it was so amazing the first time around. But I can’t wait!



Did you miss the last Good News? A birth mother expresses shares of a necklace gave her the courage to share her story.

Read ALL the Good News moments.



Bloggers Night Out | Gardner Village

Oct 30, 2013

Earlier this month, Gardner Village hosted a Bloggers Night Out, sponsored by My Craft Channel.


We shopped and laughed and chatted with other bloggers and the crazy awesome witches at Gardner Village.

Got my witch on tonight. @GardnerVillage's Lucinda is an inspiration to witches everywhere. #gardnervillage #bloggersnightout2013 Thank you @mycraftchannel.

These witches are dressed to the nines and hilarious. I mean Lucinda (above) is an INSPIRATION! I love that Gardner Village has a Witch Scavenger Hunt for the littles to do as well. This is a great last-minute activity to keep your hyper little ones entertained before trick-or-treating time. (You know where we’ll be. Hint, hint.)



Gardner Village is such a happy place. I mean this ^^^ tiny bunting over a button/ribbon display at Pine Needles? Have mercy with the cuteness. (If only I knew how to sew. One day!)

ALSO! I want to point out something that I noticed while cruising the shops. The Georgell Doll Shop has THE CUTEST multicultural baby dolls. I was swooning all over the store. If only my little dudes were more into dolls… 


Want to know a cute story about my mom? When we told her we were hoping to adopt 7 years ago, she went out and purchased just about every “race” of Corolle baby dolls from her local toy shop …and then told them they needed a larger variety. They are the sweetest little dolls. Love her and love her support!




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