New Mom and Blogging | The question I ask myself everyday.

Being a blogger, a work-at-home mom (I’m Editor-in-Chief of Adoption.com), a silversmith and owner at Charmed Collections (making personalized jewelry,) and a new mommy (not to mention those 3 mischievous little dudes) …everyday I’m hustlin’.

And I don’t mean “hustlin'” in the Rick Ross way. I mean, I am literally sweating and hustling and hurrying around my little kingdom to make sure everyone’s needs are taken care of (mixed with a couple dance parties, of course.) I’m exhausted and pass out on the couch every night waaaaaaay earlier than I usually do.

My blog, this here online real estate, has been put on the back burner. Wah!

Truth be told, I miss writing here! I miss my R House family. I love you guys!

But this is me just about every evening (when I usually do my writing)…

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Then I had this great idea. Will you let me share YOUR story? I am jonesing for stories to tell.

Interested? Check THIS out.

Hugs!

From love to love.

Just shy of three weeks ago, Josh and I were invited to be in the delivery room for the birth of our daughter.

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Today I felt this undeniable prompting to share the miracle of my experience. In fact, I was doing the dishes and the feeling came to my heart to “put the scrub brush down and go write while the littles are napping.” It was music to my ears. Sage, our daughter’s birth mother, and I have been talking about this post for weeks but it just wasn’t coming together until now.

But how do you share the experience of someone else’s labor and delivery? I can only share how I felt and what Kim Orlandini photographed by Sage’s invitation. All of this was shared with Sage’s blessing and urging. So here we go …raw emotions and all.

First of all, I was nervous. In my experience, adoptive parents don’t really fit in at the hospital.

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I felt helpless watching Sage suffer.

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I felt guilty.

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I felt worthless.

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And yet, here is this beautiful vibrant woman who is literally entrusting a piece of her heart to me. I would do anything for her and not just because of her sacrifice but because I loved her deeply and recognized her soul. She trusted me. And I trusted her. This experience wasn’t about me. It was about her and her daughter. It was about what we would share together in this sacred space. I had no idea what I was about to experience.

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I would laugh with her.

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I would dance with her. (Badly.)

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I would walk with her.

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I would rub her feet until I passed out.

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I would worry over her.

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I would listen to her. Both what was said and what didn’t need to be spoken.

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I would weep with her.

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I would pray with her.

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We would feel the veil between heaven and earth tear away as this perfect spirit took her first breath.

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We would feel the humbling presence of angels.

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I would cherish the honor of being chosen to be her mother. Sacred.

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I would write these precious moments on my heart so I could whisper her story to her again and again. “My sweet Norah Hope. This is a story of how you went from love to love…”

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Adoption Good News | When adoption’s done right

 

My How Adoption has Blessed Your Life series shares good news happening in the adoption world from all sides of the adoption triad …or just offers a paragraph or two on how the love of adoption is blessing lives. If you’d like to participate, just send me an email. Submission guidelines here. Enjoy!

 

Today’s Adoption Good News comes from Alice, an adoptive mother. This is her cute family…

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My name is Alice Anne. My husband Xavier and I adopted our son Kal-El in 2011 and we’re on the path to adopting again! I can’t even begin to describe how EXCITED I get about adoption and how often I talk about it. When adoption is done right (ethically, for the right reasons, and with the child in mind), it can be so beautiful – an answer to prayers on the side of the birth family AND on the side of the adoptive family. Open adoption can make the experience even more beautiful – the coming together of two families over the love of a child.

 

Adoption is beautiful and terrifying and emotional and bitter and sweet all at once. I’m nervous – but oh so excited – to be a part of another adoption someday soon. I am so grateful that my family is being built this way.

 

I am forever grateful for Kal’s birth mother, who was courageous enough to make the decision that was right for her and right for her son. She was determined to do the right thing. We stood in awe as she signed those papers in the hospital, amazed at her strength while she was still recovering from an emergency c-section and grieving the child she was losing. My husband is not one to cry, but he came *this close.* The love he has for her is something he cannot even express in words to this day.

 

She made him a father. She made me a mother, and for that reason I will always cherish her like a sister. I’m glad she’s a part of our lives and that we can visit her and talk to her like family (because she is). I’m having a hard time imagining that we could be blessed the same way twice – it was so amazing the first time around. But I can’t wait!

 

 

Did you miss the last Good News? A birth mother expresses shares of a necklace gave her the courage to share her story.

Read ALL the Good News moments.